logo
episode-header-image
Oct 1
45m 56s

225. The Surprising Link Between Diet Cu...

BONNIE RONEY
About this episode

"If you treat your body poorly outside of the bedroom, it's not like you pass through the doorway into your bedroom and all of a sudden you're super tuned into your body and confident."

This week, we’re diving into a topic that’s often pushed into the shadows but deeply impacts our well-being: sex. I sat down with Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex therapist, to talk about how the cultural scripts we’ve grown up with shrink women, disconnect us from our bodies, and rob us of joy, in and out of the bedroom. Just like the food rules diet culture imposes, these messages around sex convince us we’re the problem when things don’t feel right, when in reality the system is broken, not us.

If you’ve ever felt embarrassed, awkward, or ashamed talking about sex (or avoided the conversation entirely), you’re not alone. Vanessa and I discuss how body image struggles show up in the bedroom, why pleasure is truly an act of rebellion, and simple, shame-free steps you can start taking to reconnect with your body and advocate for your own needs. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, there are actionable takeaways to help you create a more enjoyable and empowered sex life.

I know it can be hard to open up about these topics, but the more we have these conversations, the less alone we feel, and the more power we have to create real change. Just like becoming an intuitive eater or ditching diet culture, prioritizing your pleasure is about reclaiming your own narrative and choosing freedom. 

What You’ll Learn: 

  • Why so many of us struggle to talk about sex, and why it’s NOT your fault 
  • How cultural scripts teach women to shrink, disconnect from their bodies, and put others’ needs first 
  • The surprising ways body image struggles show up in the bedroom
  • How tuning into pleasure in small, everyday ways can heal your relationship with your body
  • Five conversations to have with your partner that will transform your love life
  • Why embracing pleasure is a true act of rebellion (and how collective sisterhood can make advocacy feel less overwhelming)

I hope this conversation sparks a little rebellion in you, wherever you are on your journey. Remember: there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, whether we’re talking about food, your body, or your sex life. Permission granted to claim your pleasure, advocate for your needs, and break free from shame. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, leave a review, and let’s keep spreading this message of empowerment.

Vanessa’s Resources:


Come back next week for another episode and connect with me over on Instagram at @diet.culture.rebel.

Struggling with food, but not sure where to start?

You don’t have to feel 100% ready to get support. If you're tired of obsessing over food or feeling stuck in the diet cycle, my team of Registered Dietitians is here to help. We offer one-on-one nutrition counseling—and we accept insurance! Spots are limited, so head to https://dietculturerebel.com/insurance to see if we’re covered in your state and learn how to get started.

Up next
Yesterday
226. Katrina Gorry on the Silent Reality of Disordered Eating in Sport
"Trainings started to become much harder because I would restrict myself so much. Then the next day, maybe I'd binge a lot, so then I wouldn't eat for a couple days. It all was falling apart in front of my eyes, but I just didn't really know how to get out of it."Behind every spo ... Show More
47m 44s
Sep 24
224. How Ditching Alcohol Helped Sumner Brooks Live Life Fully and Parent With Presence
“I really felt like alcohol was the one thing that was keeping me from being the person that I wanted to be."If you’ve ever wondered how alcohol might be impacting your ability to show up fully in your life, or if you’re just curious about making any change that feels a little sc ... Show More
36m 48s
Sep 17
223. Have You Watched Fit for TV? Here Are My Honest Reflections on The Biggest Loser Documentary
“It makes me wonder, what things happening today will we look back on years from now with similar eyes and say, 'I can’t believe we let this happen?'”If you ever watched The Biggest Loser and found yourself rooting for the contestants (and maybe even feeling inspired), this episo ... Show More
38m 1s
Recommended Episodes
Oct 2021
96: Binge Eating, Food Addiction and Emotional Eating – What’s the Difference?
It can be confusing to determine whether you have binge eating, food addiction or emotional eating.  While criteria for binge eating disorder have been established for some time, research is beginning to show some of the ways in which binge eating and food addiction are similar a ... Show More
22m 1s
Feb 2025
How to Trust Yourself With Food Again
Do you ever feel like you just can’t trust yourself around food? Like the second you take one bite, it’s game over? This episode is all about rebuilding that trust—so you can enjoy food without guilt, stress, or feeling out of control. Right now, you might believe that your strug ... Show More
17m 58s
Jun 2025
How To Stop Thinking About Food All Day
💡 FREE COURSE: Solve Your Food Struggles In 5 Days Take the next step and start making healthy eating easier today. Access my free video series now: https://katrentas.com/course — 🎙️IN THIS EPISODE: You try to focus on work, relationships, or just enjoying your day, but your br ... Show More
25m 51s
Jul 31
3067: Food Guilt by Jessi Kneeland on Redefining Self-Care and Nutrition Advice
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3067: Jessi Kneeland unpacks the toxic roots of food guilt, revealing how fear of fatness, driven by diet culture and socie ... Show More
10m 50s
Oct 2024
What Causes Food Cravings? What Your Cravings Are Telling You, How To Manage Food Cravings & More with Sabrina Magnan
You’re not addicted to food, and you’re not addicted to sugar…even if you feel like food has power over you and you struggle with intense cravings, this episode will help you understand what is going on in your mind and body when you’re feeling those cravings that pull you toward ... Show More
45m 42s
Jan 2025
What the fuck to actually eat when you stop restricting
Hey Queens! In this episode, I’m talking about a question I get asked all the time: “What the f**k do I actually eat when I stop restricting?” It’s inspired by a lovely listener, Hedi, and so many of you who’ve shared the same struggle. I’m here to reassure you that, yes, it can ... Show More
22m 13s
Nov 2024
#048 - 3 Steps to a Healthy Relationship with Food
Apply to lose weight forever with Nick: Click Here In this episode of Drop It, we explore three powerful steps to develop a healthy relationship with food—one that supports your goals without the need for constant restriction. We dive into understanding why you choose certain foo ... Show More
27m 17s
May 2025
If You Feel Controlled By Food, Listen To This
Struggling with binge eating, guilt after eating, or feeling like food has power over you? In this episode of That Gym Girl Podcast, Angel breaks down how to stop letting food control you — while still achieving your fat loss or body confidence goals. Learn practical strategies t ... Show More
17m 21s
Jul 28
How I Leveled Up from Food Freedom to Empowered Eating (And Why I Decided to Jump!)
Welcome to my Summer Throwback Playlist—a handpicked collection of the most downloaded episodes of the podcast. These are listener favorites, packed with insights, laughs, and empowered eating encouragement to keep you fueled all summer long. A quick heads up: since these are thr ... Show More
25m 5s
Jun 2025
Ep 303 Food freedom isn’t about discipline
Have you ever thought the only thing standing between you and your ideal weight is more discipline, more motivation, or a love for the gym you just don't have? Do you catch yourself thinking, “If I could just stick to the plan…” but never actually do? Maybe you’ve convinced yours ... Show More
23m 32s