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Sep 24
45m 39s

(Content Warning) “You Can Heal” — Survi...

Nat Kringoudis
About this episode

What happens when the unthinkable is your childhood reality? I sat down with Jessica Ella, a women’s trauma expert, speaker, and author, who shares her story of surviving abuse and how she turned her pain into purpose. Jessica talks about her own healing, the courage it took to finally speak up, and the work she now does to support women in finding their own power.

This is an honest and brave conversation. Jessica explains how trauma shows up in the body, why healing the nervous system is such an important part of recovery, and how trauma bonds can keep people feeling stuck. Most of all, she shows us what becomes possible when we choose to heal and live free.

If this conversation brings up difficult feelings for you, please reach out for support. In Australia, you can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit lifeline.org.au. If you’re listening from somewhere else, please connect with a trusted support service in your local area.

Key Takeaways

The Reality of Abuse – 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys are sexually abused in childhood, mostly by people they know.

Generational Cycles – Abuse and trauma often continue through families, until someone chooses to break it.

The Trauma Bond – These strong attachments can feel like love but keep survivors connected to harm.

Healing in Layers – Somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, and nervous system repair all matter in recovery.

Speaking Out Brings Power – Sharing her story publicly was a turning point in Jessica’s healing.

Taking the First Step – Beginning the process is hard, but it leads to freedom and a new way forward.

Where to Find Our Guest

Jessica Ella’s Website: https://www.jessicaella.com.au/

Jessica Ella on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjessicaella/

Secret or Surprise: https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au/

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