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Sep 16
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Ep. 546 Porn, Dating, and What Women Rea...

Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney
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This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - proving that yes, we ALL watch porn.

From there, Dr. Kayte breaks down what’s actually healthy versus harmful when it comes to porn, plus what’s real and what’s pure camera trickery that should never, ever be tried in real life.

We also dive into Dr. Kayte’s own dating life as a woman in her mid-30s, where she shares surprising insecurities that so many women in that stage of life can relate to. Even if you’re a woman listening, you’re going to love this one.

In this episode, we also overanalyze and unpack:

  1. The best questions to ask on dates to instantly put your date at ease

  2. What to avoid saying to women when you’re on a date

  3. How excessive porn can absolutely kill your real-life sex life

  • The traits women secretly find attractive (that will probably surprise you)

    ...and so much more.


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