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Sep 16
1h 7m

How You're Getting in Your Own Way with ...

Kate Harlow
About this episode

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you want things to change, you keep ending up back in the same old patterns? In this powerful conversation, Kate has an incredibly potent and vulnerable conversation with Nicole Lohse—her dear friend and brilliant Somatic Experiencing Practitioner —to explore the sneaky ways we block ourselves from the love, freedom, and expansion we crave.

We dive into:

  • Why “trying harder” often backfires
  • How your nervous system might be running the show (without you realizing it)
  • Simple practices to create safety so real transformation can happen       
  • The difference between thinking your way out vs. feeling your way through

This episode is equal parts enlightening and practical—you’ll walk away with a roadmap to understanding your trauma, your nervous system and your patterns so you can start living with more ease, choice, and possibility. 

Resources & Next Steps:

FREE Discover Your Saboteur Mini Course: https://www.theunscriptdwoman.com/discover-your-saboteur

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About the Guest:

Nicole Lohse — a guide, teacher, and healer who helps people move beyond survival patterns and reconnect with their inherent wholeness. She reminds us there’s nothing to fix—our patterns exist for a reason, often rooted in trauma and the ways we’ve learned to get through life. Nicole’s work blends body-based awareness, nervous system reprogramming, and soul-level inquiry. Through deep listening and intuitive guidance, she creates spaces where people can relate differently to themselves and their experiences, allowing real change to unfold at a cellular, energetic, and soul level.

Website: www.nicolelohse.com 

Podcast - www.nicolelohse.com/experiential-podcast 

Download The Experiential Guide - www.nicolelohse.com/experiential-guide 

Book a call - www.nicolelohse.com/lets-chat 

Instagram - www.instagram.com/nlohse

About the Host:

Kate Harlow is the founder of The Unscriptd Woman, the creator of The Expanded Love Coaching Method, and host of The New Truth podcast - ranked in the top 1.5% globally. With over 15 years of experience teaching, coaching and facilitating transformational retreats worldwide, Kate has helped hundreds of thousands of women break free from outdated relational patterns, old patriarchal ways of thinking and unspoken rules to live by. 

Her infallible methods guide women to release the deeply ingrained scripts that keep them stuck- empowering women to step into their highest, most magnetic, and fully expressed selves. Through her coaching, retreats, podcast and upcoming book The...

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