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Sep 12
1h 11m

Hosting a Sex Party (w/ Big Dipper)

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Rapper and friend Big Dipper (host of Sloppy Seconds) returns to the pod! He and Nicole dive into how he became a bear, the many “gaybels” that shape queer dating culture, and the highs and lows of Bear Week and pig events, from the wild parties to the moments that left him questioning everything. Dipper unpacks the twink vs. bear dynamic and explains compersion - the joy of watching your partner get pleasure from someone else.

He also shares the wild story of a influencer showing up to his sex party to shoot content, why he won’t let Nicole work his gay orgy, and together they ask the important question: are we having a gay recession?


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