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Vanilla S*X, Location “Leashes,” & Three...

Coffee and Cleavage
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In this episode of Coffee and Cleavage, hosts Shantal, Lynnie, and Gary unpack three candid fan submissions: being bored by “technically good” vanilla sex and how to introduce kink respectfully; when 24/7 location sharing crosses from reassurance into surveillance; and what to do when a threesome meant to reignite intimacy leaves partners feeling more disconnected. Can a threesome save a relationship or is it doomed after?

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