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Aug 18
38m 40s

Episode 347: From Denial to Recovery: Me...

Duane Osterlind, LMFT
About this episode

Melissa Fletcher Stoeltje’s story is one that resonates deeply with anyone who has experienced the hidden struggles of addiction. Imagine maintaining a successful career while secretly battling high-functioning alcoholism. Melissa opens up about her journey from denial to recovery, sharing the pivotal moments that led her to seek help. Her memoir, "Drunk Love: A Marriage Under the Influence," serves as a testament to the resilience required to overcome such a gripping hold on life. Her candid reflections offer a beacon of hope for those facing similar battles or supporting loved ones on their path to sobriety.

Navigating a marriage entangled in the web of alcoholism presents its own set of challenges. Melissa and her husband share their experience of confronting the underlying issues masked by alcohol. Through therapy and recovery programs, they learned to rebuild their relationship, finding healthier ways to communicate and support each other. This episode explores themes of personal well-being, the importance of choosing the right therapeutic support, and the powerful transformation that sobriety can bring to personal and familial dynamics. Rediscovering one's identity and passions, such as Melissa's love for writing, are highlighted as key elements in the journey to recovery.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Melissa Fletcher Stoeltje's battle with high-functioning alcoholism and the role of denial.
  • The impact of alcoholism on Melissa's marriage and the journey to recovery and healing.
  • Rediscovering personal identity and passions through sobriety, with a focus on Melissa's love for writing.
  • The significance of choosing the right therapeutic support and the potential necessity of ending unhealthy relationships.
  • Embracing radical honesty in recovery and the surprising support from colleagues.
  • The transformative power of community and fellowship in overcoming addiction.

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Supporting Resources:

Drunk Love: A Marriage under the Influence

Sobertown Interview

NovusMindfulLife.com

https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community 

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