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Jul 22
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407. Coaching Hotline: Why We Want Thing...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes.

If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way.


Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline


Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407

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