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Jul 15
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Why Toddlers Ignore "No" -- and What to ...

Erin Hyer
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Why does your toddler seem to completely ignore you when you say “no”? 

Are they just testing limits—or is something deeper going on?

In this episode of Talking Toddlers, Erin breaks down what “no” actually means to children under three—and why their response is less about defiance and more about development. 

You’ll learn how to guide your toddler through this critical stage with firm but loving strategies that really work.

Inside this episode:

  • What toddlers truly understand about “no”
  • The developmental stages of autonomy and initiative (and why they matter)
  • Why overprotection can backfire—even when it’s well-meaning
  • How to reduce power struggles without giving in
  • 10 practical tools to help toddlers listen, cooperate, and grow with confidence

You’ll walk away with a new perspective and feel more equipped to handle those “I said no!” moments with calm, clarity, and consistency.

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Podcast Disclaimer:
This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your pediatrician or a qualified health provider with questions about your child’s development or health. The views shared are based on Erin Hyer’s professional experience and are intended to support informed parenting, not to replace individual consultation or care. Every child and family is unique—please use your discretion and consult trusted professionals when making decisions for your child.


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