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Jul 11
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Nobody Wants to Date a Drag Queen (w/ Me...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
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Drag queen icon Meatball is back! She and Nicole get into it all - being in her top era, loving the single life, and having weekend boyfriends in different cities. But also... why dating is still so hard when you do drag. Meatball opens up about losing guys the second they find out she’s a queen, and how frustrating it is watching her roster shrink because of it. And of course, the wild date stories are endless - projectile vomiting in a car on a date, sucking 3 different dicks in one night (one the size of a beer can), a hookup who did stand-up after sex, and turning down a dude mid-date for turning on fart porn. It's a wild one. Tune in!

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