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Jul 2025
1h 44m

Sheila & Jackie - S5 | E4

Julia Gaitho
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In this week’s episode of So This Is Love, we meet Sheila, a bright and eloquent twenty-something-year-old with the kind of wisdom that grief carves into bone. She tells the story of Jackie, her mother, a woman who made impossible choices in the name of survival but left her daughter unprotected in the hands of a man who wore the title of father like a disguise.

Sheila speaks of silence; the kind that settles in childhood and alters the core of naivety. Of betrayal that came not just once, but many times, layered in religion and shame. Of a girl who tried to be believed. Of a woman who became her own witness.

This is not a story of blame—it is a story of longing. For safety. For truth. For a version of love that doesn’t hurt.

And in all of it, Sheila remains open-hearted. Determined to heal. Determined not to pass down the violence she was handed.

This is one of the most powerful stories we have ever told.

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