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Jun 27
10m 13s

How Real Change Happens

Louloua Smadi El Hajj
About this episode

We all want to create change, in our lives, in our children, in our families. But sometimes, without realizing it, our desire for growth turns into pressure, frustration, or even quiet rejection. In this episode, Louloua shares the hard truth about where real, lasting change actually begins: not with fixing what’s wrong, but with loving what is.

She unpacks the difference between change driven by fear and change rooted in belief, and opens up about her personal journey — from chasing her son’s speech to rediscovering joy, connection, and a new way forward. You’ll also hear the story of her autistic brother, the meltdowns that shaped their family, and the unexpected lessons that came once they stopped resisting and started listening.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure how to help, or afraid of doing it wrong, this episode is for you.

Head to www.allbrainsgrow.com for resources on how best to support your loved ones.

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