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Jun 23
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Martha Higareda Howes: Opening Up About ...

Lewis Howes
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Most couples rush into marriage without building the foundation that actually matters, but Martha Higareda Howes, accomplished actress and my wife, shows us what intentional relationship preparation looks like. We dive deep into our year-long marriage preparation journey, revealing the workshops, therapy sessions, and difficult conversations that created unshakeable unity before we even said "I do." Martha vulnerably shares how she learned to break free from controlling patterns rooted in childhood safety mechanisms, while I open up about requiring acceptance over perfection from a partner. The most powerful moment comes when Martha demonstrates true partnership by choosing our marriage agreements over family pressure during our wedding day crisis, proving that real love means protecting the relationship you're building together. Anyone dating seriously, engaged, or married will walk away with a blueprint for creating the kind of relationship that thrives under pressure rather than crumbles.

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In this episode you will learn:

  • How to break free from controlling relationship patterns that stem from childhood safety mechanisms
  • The marriage preparation program framework that creates unshakeable foundations before your wedding day
  • Why accepting your partner completely is more powerful than trying to change them
  • How to navigate family boundaries when creating your new marriage unit
  • The conflict resolution method that prevents resentment from building over time

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