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Jun 2025
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When Pleasing Others Costs Too Much: TC'...

Leslie Vernick
About this episode
🌟 Episode Overview:

Welcome back to Relationship Truth Unfiltered. In today’s episode, we go beyond the surface and straight into the heart of what it looks like to move from insecurity to identity, from people pleasing to peace. LeAnne sits down with a courageous woman who has walked through divorce, fear, performance pressure—and found her footing again in Christ.

This episode isn’t polished or perfect. It’s powerful, raw, and real.

Through this deeply personal and hope-filled conversation, you’ll hear:

  • What life looked like before the Moving Beyond Insecurity Challenge
  • The surprising realization that even “strong” women can fall into people pleasing
  • The “aha” moment when boundaries and God’s truth collided in the best way
  • How Scripture became an anchor, especially Galatians 1:10 (NLT)
  • What has changed since the challenge—and what’s still being practiced with grace

You’ll walk away feeling encouraged, grounded, and ready to take your next step toward freedom.

💬  Key Quotes:

“Saying yes to others meant I was constantly saying no to myself.” TC

“God has a plan and purpose for my life—and I can’t fulfill it if I’m giving the best of me to everyone else.” TC

“Healing is not only available—it’s already begun.” LeAnne Parsons

🧭  Takeaways:
  • Insecurity and people pleasing can be subtle—and powerful. But they don't have to define you.
  • Boundaries aren’t selfish; they’re sacred. Especially when anchored in truth.
  • Your story can shift. And God will meet you in the middle of the mess.
📖 Scripture Anchor:

Galatians 1:10 (NLT) “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”

🕊️  Three Words to Describe Her Journey:

Illuminating. Empowering. Liberating.

🔗  Resources Mentioned: 🙌  Connect + Share:

If this conversation spoke to your heart, we’d love for you to share it with a friend or leave a review. It helps more women find their way to truth, wholeness, and healing.

🧡 You’re not too much. You’re not too late. And you’re never walking alone

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