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Jun 13
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Love Triangle Gone Wrong (w/ Michael Uri...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Actor Michael Urie (Shrinking, Ugly Betty) joins Nicole to discuss the wild hookup culture at Julliard, and the love triangle he had that went sour. Once he got fame from Ugly Betty, he starts going on dates with people who only seem interested in the version of him they saw on TV, until a second shot with actor Ryan Spahn turns into a 17-year partnership. He tells the story of a friend who died singing Britney Spears at karaoke, and lists the surprisingly beautiful ways other pals have died. Plus, the time his dog blew up an airplane bathroom.

Michael offers blunt advice for singles: your standards aren’t too high, they’re just too specific, and urges to drop the blinders on your dating life.

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