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Jun 2025
29m 40s

How to Stop Letting People Put You in a ...

High Performance
About this episode

You don’t have to be who the world tells you to be, and sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is step outside the box others have put you in.


In this episode, Jake and Damian dive into the idea of breaking free from the labels others place on us, and the ones we place on ourselves. Through compelling reflections and lessons from guests like Rio Ferdinand, Fearne Cotton, Tom Kerridge, and Lee Child, they unpack how we can reclaim our identities and live more purposefully.


From Rio’s determination to be more than a footballer, to Fearne’s courageous shift away from mainstream TV, and Tom and Lee’s decisions to redefine their lives in the face of challenge, this episode uncovers what it means to live beyond expectation.


Listen in as they offer practical insights into redefining yourself on your own terms, and why embracing multiple identities may be the key to a more fulfilled, high-performance life.


Listen to the full episodes featured:


Rio Ferdinand: https://pod.fo/e/15914

Fearne Cotton: https://pod.fo/e/1021d8

Tom Kerridge: https://pod.fo/e/22356e

Lee Child: https://pod.fo/e/10a24a


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