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Jun 3
1h 11m

dancing with the devil part 1: the desce...

Mollie Adler
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Cassie Ventura recently testified against Sean “Diddy” Combs, and as the coverage picked up, so did the usual commentary. People are asking the same questions they always do: Why didn’t she leave? Why stay that long? Why ignore the red flags? This episode opens up the actual reasons. Not just in Cassie’s case, but in situations a lot of us have lived through. We talk about what happens when your gut tells you something is off, but you don’t (or can’t) listen. What kind of early conditioning trains you to override that signal. Why some of us stay in dangerous situations, even when we know better.


I tell a story I’ve never shared before. A night out in LA, years ago. I met someone. He had money, charm, presence. There were warning signs, but I ignored every single one. That night could have gone a very different way, and it’s only now that I understand why I didn’t walk away sooner. This episode is about instinct, trauma, compliance, and the patterns that take over when you’ve never been shown how to protect yourself. It’s also about the trance that gets created when danger looks exciting and when you’ve been taught to confuse adrenaline with connection.


Here’s what we cover:


  • How trauma rewires your ability to feel and act on instinct
  • The cultural messages that tell women to be chill, likable, and accommodating
  • Why intensity often gets mistaken for intimacy
  • The pull of the “psychopomp” archetype (what it is and how it shows up in real life) 
  • The early signs of soul fragmentation and what it actually feels like in your body
  • What it means to give your energy away in a half-conscious state
  • How shame settles in when no one names what happened
  • What starts to shift when you finally do

This is Part One of a two-part series. It lays out the pattern. Next week, in Part Two, we’ll talk about how to stop repeating it. What it looks like to stop testing danger, stop calling chaos fate, and start moving from a different place inside yourself.


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