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May 2025
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Let's Not Decide Who Kids Are Before The...

NIR EYAL
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The true joy of parenthood lies in watching our children unfold into their authentic selves. Week by week, month by month, year by year, they evolve into increasingly complex human beings with their own preferences, talents, and perspectives. Yet in our eagerness to know them—and as a natural result of our constant proximity—we often fall into the trap of assigning fixed identities to them prematurely.

As humans, we instinctively categorize and label the world around us. But when applied to developing children, this tendency can be not just unfair but actively harmful to their growth potential.


You can read the Nir And Far blog post on: Let's Not Decide Who Kids Are Before They Do here.

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