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May 16
36m 59s

E106 Beyond the Negativity Bias: How Beg...

Katie Farinas
About this episode

As we reach midlife, many of us carry a lifetime of stories, scars, and beliefs that feel like truth—but what if they’re not? In this episode, Katie explores how our past experiences—particularly the painful ones—shape our present reality and often keep us stuck. This is the power of the negativity bias, and it's quietly directing your life from the shadows.

But here's the good news: You can break free.

Katie introduces the transformative concept of Beginner’s Mind, a Zen Buddhist principle that invites you to approach life with fresh eyes, curiosity, and openness—no labels, no limits, no expectations. This mindset is the key to peeling back the layers of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and "I'm too old" stories that may be keeping you from your dharma (your soul’s purpose).

Whether you're navigating a career change, rekindling creativity, or simply longing to feel more alive, this episode is a must-listen for any woman in midlife ready to rewrite her story.

What You’ll Learn:

  • What the negativity bias is and how it impacts your beliefs and decisions
  • Why the lizard brain and amygdala keep you stuck in fear and resistance
  • How self-limiting beliefs are formed—and how to recognize them
  • What “Beginner’s Mind” means and how to apply it in real life
  • How to move from resistance to curiosity in the pursuit of purpose
  • Ways to practice beginner’s mind in relationships, challenges, and daily moments
  • Why your resistance might actually be a sign you’re on the right path

This episode is for you if…

  • You're in midlife and wondering what’s next
  • You feel stuck but don’t know why
  • You’re curious about purpose, transformation, or spiritual growth
  • You’ve ever told yourself “I’m too old,” “not good enough,” or “that’s for other people”
  • You want to feel more alive, more you, and more free

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(please note, these episodes were recorded under the previous podcast name, Mom on the Vege)

🧘‍♀️ Your purpose didn’t expire with age—it’s just beginning to unfold.

Hit play and let’s explore what’s possible when you drop the labels and return to your truest self.

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