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May 9
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The Male Loneliness Epidemic (w/ Drew Af...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
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TikTok star Drew Afualo joins Nicole to share her enemies‑to‑lovers love story and the worst dates that taught her to trust her gut. She tells the time she dated a man who drank ocean water and ended up getting his stomach pumped, walks through her viral list of red flags in men, and the backlash she received online for sharing it. They dig into the male loneliness epidemic, red‑pill culture, and what we can learn from the dating on Love On The Spectrum. Plus, Nicole tells the time she accidentally went on a beach date with a 60‑year‑old comedian, and the story of how banana bread uncovered an affair.

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