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May 4
17m 58s

Overcoming Fear of Failure with an Exper...

Jocelin Lillienau
About this episode

In this podcast episode, Jocelin and Lorna tackles the common fear of failure that arises when riders take on horses who have competed at a higher level and how the pressure of a horse's past achievements can lead to self-doubt and anxiety about not measuring up. In this episode, we explore:

  • Why the pressure of a horse's past achievements can trigger fear of failure.
  • The importance of understanding your goals with this horse (learning vs. proving).
  • Why comparing your progress to the horse's previous rider is unhelpful.
  • How to treat an experienced horse as a new partnership, building
  • The common fears underlying "fear of failure" (judgment, mistakes, etc.).
  • Reframing the idea of "doing the horse justice" by focusing on its well-being.
  • Letting go of external expectations and focusing on your own journey.
  • Recognizing that your internal doubts often drive your external anxieties.

Key takeaway from this episode: Focus on your individual journey and goals with your horse. Release the pressure of past achievements, embrace the learning process, and remember that your mindset is key to a successful partnership.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

🐎 Apply for coaching with us: www.mindeq.eu/coaching 

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