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Apr 2025
1h 18m

Mom's Gone QAnon

Julia Hava & Eliza McLamb
About this episode

In part two of our no contact series, the girlies zero in on the emotional and psychological fallout of cutting family ties, discussing the rise of no contact as a cultural norm, the complicated path to reconciliation, and the intra-polarization of the American family. Digressions include the stunning foresight of Kim Kardashian, a cursed image of Justin Timberlake, and how the right bra can truly change your life.

If you're currently no contact with family or considering this step, you're not alone; connect with Stand Alone, Together Estranged, and Family Support Resources for community and support.

This episode was produced by Julia Hava and Eliza McLamb and edited by Allison Hagan. Research assistance from Kylie Finnigan.

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A Psychologist Weighs In On The Post-Breakup 'No-Contact' Rule

Can you still be close to someone whose politics you despise?

The Long-Term Stability of Affective Bonds After Romantic Separation: Do Attachments Simply Fade Away?

Speaking of Psychology: Coping with family estrangement, with Lucy Blake, PhD

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What Research Tells Us About Family Estrangement

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Family Dynamics

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