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Apr 8
56m 59s

357: What if you were the girl locked up...

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About this episode

A vulnerable girl, having already endured abuse from her schizophrenic mother, loses her freedom and innocence when a trusted adult lures her into an unthinkable decade of captivity. 

Today’s episode featured Tanya Kach. You can email Tanya at tnkach@gmail.com or find her on social media via the following: 

Facebook @Tanya Nicole Kach (Mimi)

Instagram @libragirl1481

Tanya wrote an autobiography “Memoir of a Milk Carton Kid”, available where books are sold. She’s done many speaking engagements, as well as television, podcasts, school speaking engagements and book readings.

A special thanks to Todd Rennebohm of the Bunny Hugs & Mental Health podcast for referring Tanya to us.

Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz

Content/Trigger Warnings: childhood abuse and neglect, divorce, bullying, child grooming, predation and assault, rape and sexual assault, kidnapping, imprisonment, explicit language

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Intro Music: ""Illabye"" – Tipper

Music Bed: Re-Entry

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National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

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