One in five couples report that porn has become a problem in their relationship. So why is porn such a common source of conflict, and what can we do about it? In today’s show, we’re going to explore how many people in relationships use porn, what fights about porn are really about, as well as how to resolve issues with porn in relationships.

I am joined once again by Ashley Weller. She is a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What’s your Position which tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Why do so many couples fight about porn?
Are fights about porn a symptom of a deeper issue?
Why is porn mostly an issue heterosexual, monogamous relationships but not so much in queer and non-monogamous relationships?
How can we use porn in healthy ways in relationships?
How can you have more productive conversations about porn with your partner?

You can learn more about Ashley and check out What’s your Position here.

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