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Mar 2025
44m 23s

How to Use Your Hands: Fingering & Handj...

Dr. Emily Morse
About this episode

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. 

Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master.
  • How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises.
  • The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex.


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