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Mar 2025
57m 44s

Coming Out (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Comedian and best friend Sasheer Zamata (SNL, Agatha All Along) opens up to Nicole about her journey coming out, discusses whether it’s lesbian to collect chairs, and the bizarre YouTube dating show Pop The Balloon Or Find Love. She also shares how working on SNL impacted her dating life and discusses how to actually make new friends as an adult.

Meanwhile, Nicole reflects on how she thought getting a boyfriend would change everything… and why it really hasn’t. Plus, the truly horrifying story of the time she had sex with a man wearing Vibram shoes. Yuck!


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