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Mar 2025
41m 46s

Why Women Keep Losing Financial Control—...

Shari Rash, Money Podcast for Women, Personal Finance, Relationships & Mental Health
About this episode

In this powerful final episode of the Unraveling Your Relationship with Money series, forensic accountant Tracy Coenen joins me for a deep dive into the emotional and psychological ties we have with money. We explore how childhood experiences shape financial mindsets, why so many women struggle with financial control in relationships, and the hidden reality of financial abuse—a silent but devastating form of control many don’t even recognize.


Whether you’ve experienced financial struggles, fear of not having enough, or are navigating the challenges of divorce and money, this episode is a must-listen. We’re breaking the silence, busting myths, and giving you the tools to take back your financial power.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • The fear of not having enough money—why it’s so common and how to shift your mindset
  • How childhood experiences shape our financial decisions as adults
  • Tracy’s journey from criminology to forensic accounting—and how she helps people uncover hidden money
  • Why so many women hand over financial control in relationships—and the dangers of doing so
  • The shocking reality of financial abuse and how to protect yourself


Resources & Links Mentioned:

Listen to Tracy Coenen’s podcast: Find Me The Money

Get Tracy’s Divorce Money Guide book and more to help you protect your financial future: Divorce Money Guide


Read Shannah's book: Unraveling Your Relationship with Money

Follow me on Instagram: @shannahgame

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