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Feb 2025
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Episode 373: How Sex Changes At Midlife

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Sex changes as we age. While these changes are often small and gradual, once you hit your 40s and 50s, it’s not uncommon to start noticing bigger changes. In this episode, we’re going to talk all about sex at midlife and some of the most common sexual issues that come up during this time for women, as well as tips for dealing with them.

My guest today is Dr. Sameena Rahman, a board-certified OB/GYN, sex-med gynecologist, and menopause specialist with an academic affiliation at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. She is the founder of the Center for Gynecology and Cosmetics, and host of the podcast Gyno Girl Presents: Sex, Drugs & Hormones.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What are some of the most common sexual challenges faced by midlife women?
  • Why is it so taboo to talk about midlife sexual distress?
  • What do women need to know about how peri-menopause can affect your sex life?
  • What are the most helpful strategies for improving sex at midlife?
  • How can self-pleasure help in relieving peri-menopause symptoms?

You can follow Sameena on Instagram to stay updated on her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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