272: Self-Sacrifice vs. Self-Honoring: T...

Today I’m joined by the brilliant Beatriz Victoria Albina (a.k.a. Béa) for a conversation about something I’m incredibly passionate about: empowering women to own their truth, author their lives, and thrive in mind, body, relationships, and finances.

Béa is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, breathwork meditation guide, and the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast. Her work helps those socialized as women reconnect with their bodies and minds, break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and reclaim their joy and power.

In this episode, we dive into why so many women self-sacrifice to make others happy, what it means to emotionally outsource your sense of belonging, and how to cultivate internal self-worth. We uncover the unspoken expectations that fuel self-sacrifice, explore the transformative role of somatic experiencing, and discuss how to realign emotional, physical, and financial choices with your values.

You’ll also learn about the “rescue trap,” the power of setting boundaries and saying “no,” and how to prioritize self-honoring behaviors. Béa shares practical exercises to help unravel people-pleasing tendencies, regulate your nervous system, and connect your beliefs and values with your actions.

This conversation is packed with valuable insights and actionable strategies to help you spend your time, energy, and money in alignment with what truly matters to you. 

Let’s dive in!

Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:

• 04:00 Why so many women self-sacrifice in order to make others happy and emotionally outsource their sense of belonging–plus, how to generate an internal sense of belonging
• 07:33 The unspoken expectations that fuel self-sacrifice, why it’s important to have compassion for ourselves, and how to practice somatic experiencing
• 09:45 How people who are raised and socialized as women overspend emotionally, physically, and financially–and how Béa works with clients to realign their choices with their values
• 10:51 How we can start to unravel our people-pleasing tendencies and use somatic practices to regulate our nervous systems
• 12:57 The best way to develop somatic bodily awareness, why meditation might not be the answer for everyone, and lessons about regulation from a chihuahua 
• 21:56 What the rescue trap is, why women are vulnerable to it, and the implications of this variety of self-abandonment–in big and little ways
• 26:01 Why ‘no’ is such a hard word for women to face, how we can reframe that experience, and the role of boundaries in preventing resentment
• 29:17 How Béa identifies the difference between self-abandoning and self-honoring choices, and why somatic processing is an integral part of it
• 31:24 How selfishness can help you prioritize your spending, how Béa thinks about financial regret, and lessons she’s learned from past spending choices
• 34:32 An exercise to help you connect with your internal compass and empower yourself to make a different choice when you sense self-abandonment

Show Notes
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