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Since you were a kid, you were taught that money equals success. That a big paycheck means you’ve made it. That if you just work hard enough, earn enough, or save enough, you’ll finally feel secure, confident, and happy.

But let me tell you something no one else will—money won’t be the thing that fixes your life.

If it did, millionaires wouldn’t be miserable.

If it did, six-figure earners wouldn’t feel like they were drowning in student loan debt.

If it did, women wouldn’t question their value in relationships just because they make less—or nothing at all.

Your worth is not measured in dollars.

This is episode three of the Unraveling Your Relationship with Money series, leading up to the launch of my book, Unraveling Your Relationship with Money.

Today, I’m sitting down with Heather Boneparth, partner at Bone Fide Wealth, co-author of Money Together (coming October 2025), and creator of the Joint Account newsletter, to pull apart the toxic narratives we’ve been fed about money.

  • We’re talking about the shame spiral of six-figure student loan debt, because it’s not just about numbers—it’s about identity.
  • Why career choices feel personal and why you are not your job title.
  • And the lie women have been sold about financial worth in relationships, and how to break free from it.


Press play. This episode will change how you see yourself—and your money.

Resources & Links:

Preorder Money Together by Heather Boneparth & Douglas Boneparth (coming October 2025)

Subscribe to Heather’s The Joint Account newsletter

Grab my book Unraveling Your Relationship with Money

Follow me on Instagram @shannahgame

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