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Feb 2025
51m 15s

We Need to Talk

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode

Just because we’ve been doing something for a long time doesn’t mean we’re doing it right. One part of our lives where this may be particularly true is when we're talking with others. This week, we bring you the first of a two-part look at what makes someone skilled at socializing. Behavioral scientist Alison Wood Brooks explains why conversations are much more complex than most of us realize — and how to engage in a more meaningful back-and-forth with another person.

For more of our work on the art of conversation, check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes: 

Why Conversations Go Wrong

Relationships 2.0: How to Keep Conflict from Spiraling

 

 

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