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Feb 2025
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Are You Hiding Behind Happy? Allison Hol...

Jamie Kern Lima
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Are you hiding behind happy? Do you feel like you always have to lift everyone else up, or people please, or should only be seen when you’re happy? If this is you, you’re not alone – studies show 40% of us frequently suppress our negative emotions, all to put on a happy face for everyone else.

Today’s guest, Allison Holker, says she and late husband Stephen “twitch” boss know this all too well. And today on this episode of The Jamie Kern Lima show, Allison is sharing parts of her story, she’s never shared before, with the intention she says of inspiring and helping others, who might also be struggling alone, before it’s too late. She’s also sharing how she says tWitch gave her permission and his blessing, to share them.

From So You Think You Can Dance, to Dancing with The Stars, Allison Holker is an Emmy-nominated choreographer, dancer, host, actor, and author.

It’s an honor to have these conversations and create a space for others to share their stories with you and me together. The intention of the show is to be a force for good and a force for love in the world, and my prayer is that this episode is both, for you, today. 

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Chapters:

17:03 Masking depression with a smile

21:47 The power of positive affirmations and learning tools to deal with sad days

23:27 Signs she didn’t realize were meaningful

36:41 The Ayahuasca journey Allison says was the turning point

39:36 The importance of the Tree emoji Allison says “tWitch” texted the night before his death

46:32 Allison says tWitch visited her 3 days after his death, what he said to her, and how she says he still visits her and her daughter

55:40 Allison’s intention and purpose, to inspire others to get help and not hide their struggles or feel like they have to face them alone

1:02:26 How tWitch gave Allison permission, she says, to share his and their story and write the book and how he’s proud of her

1:23:51 On healing, and her new partner Adam. How she’s “in love and wants to scream it from the roof tops” and is in the happiest place she’s ever been

It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.

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