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Feb 2025
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Charisma Teacher: Psychology Of Why Peop...

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They say you either have charisma or you don’t, but Charlie Houpert proves charisma can be built, and reveals the secret code to mastering it for success in love, work, and friendship 


 Charlie Houpert is the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet’. 


In this conversation, Charlie and Steven discuss topics such as, how to stop feeling awkward in social situations, the ultimate body language hack to build trust, how to become instantly likeable, and how to master the art of persuasion. 


00:00 Intro

02:25 What Is It You Do?

04:39 How Much Will These Skills Shift Someone’s Life?

06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn?

07:15 Your YouTube Channel

09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed

12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years?

15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You?

17:32 First Impressions

21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have

24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk

26:05 Flirt With the World

27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements

35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Talking to a Big Crowd

37:02 Do We Underestimate the Ways We Communicate?

41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing?

43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction

47:40 How to Figure Out if an Interaction Is Real

50:19 People Controlling the Narratives That Reach You

52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths

55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell?

01:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets

01:03:16 Elon Musk Salute

01:06:13 The Media Has Made Saying Sorry the Wrong Thing to Do

01:08:26 Ads

01:09:24 Is Trump Charismatic?

01:14:22 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity

01:18:06 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything

01:20:43 I Proactively Share My Purpose

01:23:46 Be the First to Humanize the Interaction

01:26:13 Charismatic Types of People

01:31:23 Obama’s Charisma

01:32:26 The Importance of Charisma

01:33:43 Ads

01:35:40 How to Use These Skills to Get a Job or Promotion

01:41:07 What Are Women Attracted to in Your Opinion?

01:45:08 Are People Testing to See if You Have Standards?

01:49:21 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You

01:53:56 Speaking Like a Leader

01:54:46 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words

01:56:12 Does Body Language Matter When Speaking?

01:57:35 The Fundamentals of Being Confident

01:59:19 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Increase Your Well-Being?

02:02:53 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel?

02:08:19 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy?


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