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Feb 2025
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3481: How to Find Belonging (Either Beau...

Justin Malik
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Episode 3481:

Finding belonging is a lifelong pursuit, and Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores two very different paths to it. Some seek connection through aggression and conformity, while others embrace vulnerability, allowing rejection to refine their circles of belonging. Through powerful stories including one from motivational speaker Nick Santonastasso this piece challenges us to choose authenticity over approval, faith over fear, and true connection over performative acceptance.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/how-to-find-belonging-either-beautifully-or-violently/

Quotes to ponder:

"Who do you become in order to attract companionship? What do you do in order to keep your companionship?"

"The other way is to show up as you actually are, with all your countless imperfections and inabilities and insecurities just laid bare, vulnerable, and alone and to allow the rejecting of you to become the thing that purifies your circles of belonging."

"As your sense of belonging grows, your faith in everything else does, too."

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