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Jan 2025
46m 32s

121. Melinda Tankard Reist - The Silent ...

Jeremy Lipkowitz
About this episode

In this episode of Unhooked, I sit down with Melinda Tankard Reist, a journalist and author of the book 'He Chose Porn Over Me.' We explore the devastating effects of pornography on women, relationships, and society. Melinda shares insights from her book on how women are affected by their partners' porn addiction, including emotional and physical health impacts. Our discussion also highlights the broader societal consequences, such as an increase in sexual harassment in schools and a rise in youth sex offenders. Despite the overwhelming challenges, Melinda calls for collective action to address these issues and support affected individuals. 

Expect to learn: - 

  • The emotional and physical impacts of porn addiction on women and girls - 
  • what is causing the increase in sexual harassment and harmful behaviors in schools
  • How the global porn industry perpetuates misogyny and racism - 
  • The challenges in regulating and addressing the porn industry's influence - 
  • Steps you can take to combat the negative effects of pornography on young women and young men
  • and much more.. .


Links to Connect with Melinda:
www.melindatankardreist.com; Instagram @meltankardreist; X: @meltankardreist; FB: https:facebook.com/MelindaTankardReist


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Shownotes

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:13 Discussing 'He Chose Porn Over Me'

01:55 Impact of Pornography on Relationships

04:14 Societal Consequences of Pornography

06:41 Sexual Harassment in Schools

18:17 Global Porn Industry and Racism

19:40 Challenges in Addressing Pornography

22:37 Positive Changes and Hope

34:25 Advice for Men in Relationships

41:25 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

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