Hello! Welcome to the And She Rises (The F*ck Up) — the podcast! We are so happy you are here.
In today’s episode, Amanda riffs on four things to remember when you’re feeling overwhelmed AF.
These four clips were taken from our newest course — Money Mama.
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Here are the riffs from today’s podcast:
1. You are always… you. When I became a mom, fortunately, I managed not to feel a total identity crisis. I never exactly felt like I lost myself. Mostly, I felt like I had myself, and my self care, and my family, and my work, and my baby the whole time and a decent balance of it all. Here is how I’ve thought of things: I have allowed parts of me to take a backseat position — they were still there, but they just aren’t running the show full-time anymore. However, those parts of me are available as I need them. And as I make space for them. I don’t feel like the Money Queen 100% of the time right now, but she has her moments. My strategy is to: Let myself evolve. Let yourself become the new you. And let the parts of you that used to be the main you, show up as needed. Every version of you gets to coexist.
2. Slow down to expand time. When I slow down, so does time. I like to move fast and I like to get a lot done. I have been in the illusion that the faster I move, the more I get done, but I have realized that that isn’t true. When I find space in the moments of whatever I have to do — space to be present and check in with myself and slow down — there is more room. I make more space as I find more space. Everything gets… bigger. In my illusion of “go fast to get everything done,” I was always frantic and overwhelmed. I was less present. Ask yourself: Are you being present with yourself? Or are you checked out? If your time is a resource and you are here to use it well, where are you using it well and where are you using it in ways that do not feel good or work for you?
3. Take the pressure off. Have you ever noticed that when you want something or think it would be really cool or fun or lovely for something to happen, but you don’t need it… it is able to show up? Like your lighthearted desire… makes the way. Which is all great and fine, until it’s time to call in something we… need. (Think Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: We can’t focus on the fun stuff when we’re worried about our basic needs.) Needing it and needing it now can create pressure and… resistance. And the feeling of more space between us and what we want. However, if we can get ourselves into a space of lightheartedness and trust around the thing we need — we can move a lot more energy and make a lot more room for it to come in. But if you can get yourself to think about the thing that you’re needing from a place of, it’s possible, and it’s easy, and it’s coming, and I take the pressure off, and I know I am fine, and I know I will not die, and I know it’ll come through — more desire based and less need based — that is a much easier place to not just manifest and call something in from, but to think creatively from to find your solution.
4. Release the mom guilt. Guilt is not helpful. Guilt is not useful. Guilt is only helpful if it helps us realize that we didn’t like how we showed up in a situation and we would like to choose a new path. Guilt can be helpful to that exact degree, but past that… guilt is not very useful. Ruminating in our guilt turns to shame, and shame is an awful, awful motivator for change. It doesn’t work. Remind yourself: There’s always a new moment. There’s always opportunities to try again. We’re moving forward, always.
Money Mama is only open for enrollment (and marked at the special price!) for a short time — I wouldn’t wait.
If you are feeling the vibe, I can't wait to see you inside.
To you and your glorious, big, bold, beautiful life.
Your rules. Your way.
- Amanda & Team AF