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Dec 2024
34m 25s

Calming the Chaos: Taming the Overthinki...

Dr. Amelia Kelley
About this episode

Key takeaways:

  • Overthinking can be a major barrier for adults with ADHD, but understanding its patterns—like thought loops and spirals—can help break free from inaction.
  • Creativity thrives when overthinking is managed, allowing ADHDers to leverage their unique strengths without being trapped by perfectionism.
  • The PAM Method (Pause, Affirm and Allow, Move) offers a simple, effective way to disrupt overthinking and take intentional steps forward.
  • Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is common among ADHDers, but acknowledging and working through these feelings can pave the way for meaningful progress.
  • Waiting for the "perfect moment" often leads to paralysis; launching imperfectly can be the key to growth and success.
  • Anxiety often peaks within 90 seconds physiologically—beyond that, it’s our thoughts that perpetuate the distress, making mindset shifts a critical tool.
  • Body doubling, even in the form of self-compassionate self-talk, can be a powerful way to stay focused and productive.
  • Practical tools like scheduling tasks as calendar appointments rather than endless lists help ADHDers take actionable steps toward their goals.
  • Vulnerability, self-acceptance, and affirmations are essential to overcoming procrastination and self-doubt, especially in high-pressure situations.
  • Empowering ADHDers with actionable, evidence-based tools can transform perceived weaknesses into opportunities for success.

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