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Dec 2024
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The Body Language Expert: Stop Using Thi...

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What if you were told that there is a secret language that makes up 98% of your communication? Impacting your work, socialising, and romantic life


 Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’. 


In this conversation, Vanessa and Steven discuss topics such as, why your resting face matters, the 3 science-backed tricks for confidence, the best gestures for building trust, and how to spot a liar fast. 


00:00 Intro

01:45 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success

03:16 I'm a Recovered Awkward Person

05:07 What's an Ambivert?

07:00 One Word That Can Change the Way People Think

09:11 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In

12:13 The Resting B*tch Face Effect

15:33 Do Not Fake Smile!

18:00 The 97 Cues to Be Warm and Competent

21:15 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation

24:09 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular

28:06 Message People Telling Them This...

32:53 The Luck Experiment

34:36 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious

41:26 The Importance of Hand Gestures

43:10 Hand Tricks to Be Liked

53:46 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic

56:19 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent

58:16 The Power Cues

1:07:26 How to Spot a Liar

1:14:54 If You've Been Told You're Intimidating, Do This

1:18:09 Don't Let Anyone Use This With You

1:21:16 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone

1:33:52 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone...

1:38:34 How to Greet Someone

1:49:13 How to Master Messaging

1:54:12 Personal Branding

1:58:32 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips

2:03:58 Body Language and Brain Connection

2:06:05 Are You Awkward? Watch This

2:09:45 How to Get Someone to Approach You

2:14:39 How to Make Friends as an Adult

2:18:28 AirPods Are Killing Friendships

2:21:48 Ads

2:22:39 How to Spot a Liar (Repeat Topic)

2:28:36 Toxic Relationships

2:31:06 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger

2:35:32 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge


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