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Nov 2024
49m 46s

The New Way to Confidently Approach and ...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Odds are, you see women you’d love to meet at bars, grocery stores or the gym, but you never approach them. Fear holds you back. You don’t know what to say, and you don’t want to seem creepy. It’s frustrating… but fixable! In this episode, host Connell Barrett—who has approached thousands of women in his 12 years as a dating coach—shares a new way to confidently meet women IRL. His Authentic Approach Technique will teach you exactly what to say to women, so you can get numbers and dates and find an incredible girlfriend. And you’ll talk to women with charm and authenticity, NOT with sketchy pickup tricks.


In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:


(2:35) The 3 Simple Ways to Approach Women Almost Anywhere

(6:30) Why Women Hate Scripted “PUA” Tactics

(7:15) Why Connell’s Authentic Approach Technique is Basically Rejection-Proof

(8:05) The Night Connell Got 3 Numbers from 3 Wonderful Women

(11:50) The Approaching Mistake that Gets You In Your Head

(12:50) How to Meet Women Using a Power Compliment

(16:42) The Mindset Shift that Destroys Approach Anxiety

(19:42) How to Meet Women by Asking the Perfect Question

(22:30) A Great Approach Opener to Use at the Gym

(27:53) How to Meet Women with A Funny, Flirty Icebreaker

(36:30) How to Be Authentically Attractive, NOT Creepy

(41:15) How Connell’s Client Taylor Approached and Made Out with a Woman in Under 10 Minutes

(43:49) Your Approach Mission for this Episode


Are you ready to confidently meet women and get numbers and dates? Listen now!


Quotes

"Be the charming, authentic man who confidently sparks conversations anywhere. Your natural charm will have her telling her friends." - Connell Barnett

"Use a genuine compliment, relevant question, or unique observation to initiate conversations." - Connell Barnett


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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