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Oct 2024
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Esther Perel: The #1 Reason Relationship...

Lewis Howes
About this episode

In this powerful episode of The School of Greatness, I sit down with world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel at the Summit of Greatness. Esther brings her profound wisdom to explore the complexities of modern relationships, diving deep into topics like eroticism, intimacy, and the challenges of finding connection in our digital age. She shares fascinating insights about why people struggle with relationships today, offering practical guidance for both singles and couples. Through personal stories, including a touching revelation about her husband's kidney transplant, Esther demonstrates how vulnerability and community support are essential for human connection. This conversation is filled with transformative insights that will change how you think about love, relationships, and what makes us feel truly alive.

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IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN

  • Why we expect more from romantic relationships today than ever before, and how this impacts our ability to connect
  • The three core things people fight for in relationships: care and closeness, respect and recognition, and power and control
  • How to build meaningful relationships in an age of "modern loneliness" where we're more connected yet more isolated than ever
  • The crucial difference between having sex and experiencing eroticism, and why it matters for intimate relationships
  • How to heal from sexual trauma and reclaim control, connection, and pleasure in relationships

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