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Oct 2024
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163. Is Your Audience Ignoring You? How ...

Matt Abrahams, Think Fast Talk Smart
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How acceptance and authenticity can transform all of our interactions.

What’s the key to experiencing deeper connection in our communication? According to Alan Alda, it starts with acceptance — of others and ourselves.

"Connecting, communicating, and clarity," Alda explains, "they're all based on hearing what the other person is really saying; letting the person be real; accepting them.” As an acclaimed actor, writer, director, and author of If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?, Alda has spent much of his career exploring how acceptance enables us to be our authentic selves, leading to better communication and truer connection. “There’s nothing more engaging than the real you,” he says.

Also the founder of the Alan Alda Center for Communicating Science at Stony Brook University, Alda strives to help scientists and health professionals communicate more effectively with the public. “Science can't do its work unless it gets funded. And it can't get funded if people don't understand what the scientists are trying to do,” he says.

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Alda and host Matt Abrahams discuss how acceptance and authenticity can transform all of our interactions, from complicated science conversations to everyday communication.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction
  • (02:28) - Motivation for Communication
  • (04:28) - Avoiding Communication Pitfalls
  • (06:44) - The Role of Clarity and Vividness
  • (07:51) - Reflection in Communication
  • (08:41) - Connection in Conversations
  • (09:56) - Reframing Communication Anxiety
  • (11:36) - Asking Meaningful Questions
  • (12:31) - Matt’s Communication Journey
  • (14:18) - The Art of Storytelling
  • (16:45) - The Final Three Questions
  • (20:18) - Conclusion
 

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