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Oct 2024
1h 34m

Sex Gets Better with Age with Laurie Han...

Layla Martin
About this episode

Shownotes

 

  • How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged

  • Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species

  • The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra

  • How Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth

  • Exactly what an RBDSMT conversation is and how it can serve you

  • How to practice consent in a sexy way

 

Bio

 

Laurie Handlers is the author of 2 international bestselling books, Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy and Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age. She empowers people to fall deeply in love with themselves and their partners. An expert in the fields of sexuality, intimacy and relationships, Laurie has taught transformational workshops on topics ranging from releasing past emotional trauma, fearless communication and sacred sexuality since 1978.

 

Michael Gibson is a Certified Sex and Happiness Coach, the co-founder of the Academy for Men and creator of the Extraordinary Lovers Experience; a program that guides couples into long lasting conscious-relating to deepen intimacy, communication and connection. His Academy for Men’s Coaching Program trains men in the skills of presence, communication and exquisite touch, focusing on intimacy, pleasure and healing. Michael is known for the quote, “Consent: don’t have sex without it!”

 

Partners Michael and Laurie have also created an online community called Laurie Handlers' Inner Circle that serves its members through podcast interviews, online courses and monthly live calls, and offer relationship coaching, workshops and retreats on Extraordinary Love.

Timestamps

 

00:01:36 - Guest introduction

00:03:26 - The story of how Laurie and Michael met

00:06:28 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:07:40 - How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged

00:09:20 - Why older people need boundaries in a different way than younger people

00:12:45 - What allowed Michael to say yes to Laurie changing his life

00:15:21 - The stories women tell themselves that block them from opportunity

00:17:18 - Michael proposes to Laurie in a 5-star Port-a-Potty

00:18:45 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:23:04 - What made Michael cry at his own wedding

00:25:30 - There is no expiration date on your highest dreams

00:27:44 - Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species

00:31:18 - When Laurie knew she didn’t want to be in an open relationship any longer

00:35:28 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:36:37 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:37:49 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:40:12 - Laurie shares her experience teaching sexuality in the 70’s

00:44:38 - The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra

00:48:49 - The Tantric tools Laurie has seen help other women and herself the most

00:54:06 - Layla talks about the foundational philosophy of Tantra

00:58:54 - Michael explains the saying “Welcome to your life”

01:01:55 - Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth

01:02:49 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:04:16 - How to practice consent in a sexy way

01:06:53 - Consent is the gift of choice

01:09:50 - Michael explains what an RBDSMT conversation is

01:13:04 - How Laurie and Michael’s RBDSMT conversation began

01:17:33 - The one thing Michael wants men to know

01:20:59 - Laurie’s top advice for women

01:23:54 - Michael and Laurie’s message to couples

01:27:32 - The Return to Love Game

01:29:28 - Conclusion

 

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