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Sep 2024
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235. Right person, wrong time: fact or f...

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The right person at the wrong time might be one of the saddest kinds of love stories we come across. This person may be perfect for us, our dream partner, but factors like distance, life, obligations, emotional readiness get in the way and mean that we can't be together. Despite knowing we can't be together, we can't let go and pine after this person, wondering what we could have done differently. Or is right person, wrong time, actually just a myth? Is there ever such a thing as the 'wrong time' for our soulmate? In this episode we discuss: 

  • The obstacles that keep people apart
  • The psychology of 'right person, wrong time'
  • The cognitive biases that keep us attached to someone
  • Why we feel more bonded with some people over others 
  • Why 'right person, wrong time' may be a myth 
  • How to get over this person you can't stop thinking about

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