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Sep 2024
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255: Work With Your Feelings: EQ, Emotio...

Hilary Hendershott, CFP
About this episode

Emotions and money are so intertwined because our feelings are a part of everything we think and do. But a lot of people ignore or avoid their emotions because they don’t know how to identify or regulate them–and that’s a costly mistake.

While that might feel easier in the moment, you end up missing out on a lot of important information–and those blind spots can cause you to make choices that aren’t aligned with your values or long-term goals.

According to today’s guest, Jess Robson, the only way to course correct is by learning how to connect with–and regulate–your feelings.

Jess is a copywriter turned EQ coach (more on what that means in the episode) who helps people grow their emotional awareness and intelligence so they can work with their feelings, instead of against them.

In this episode, we talk about how you can use the information your emotions contain to make better, values-aligned choices that keep you on track for your long-term goals–rather than derailing you.

Jess explains where our feelings come from, how our emotions influence the stories we tell ourselves, and how those stories impact the choices we make. We also dig into the relationship between our emotions and money stories–and how we can write a new story that creates a better outcome.

Listen to hear the way Jess describes the way our feelings keep us stuck, the power of leaning into tension and increasing your capacity for trying something new, and how you can use feelings like fear to help you accomplish big things… instead of keeping you small.

From creating the space for big feelings to the impact of the Cycle of Market Emotions on our financial decisions, we covered a lot of ground in a short amount of time. (We’re both swift talkers! 😆)

I hope you walk away from this conversation feeling empowered, inspired, and with even just a little more courage, so you can face your feelings instead of fighting them–and build a life that allows you to thrive.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money:

  • 02:15 Where emotions come from, why Jess has a love/hate relationship with feelings, and how our emotions can derail us 
  • 05:23 Defining (and distinguishing between) EQ, emotional awareness, self-awareness, and emotional attunement 
  • 07:47 How The Feelings Wheel helps us identify and connect with our emotions–and why talking about money is so charged for women
  • 11:16 Money miswiring, how feelings impact our decision making, and our willingness to try new things without proof it will work
  • 14:48 The power of “One Opposite Action,” how connecting with your feelings can help you make a different choice, and increasing our capacity for tension
  • 18:23 Learning how to regulate our emotions with RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, and Nurture), plus emotional regulation skills you can practice in the moment
  • 25:41 How the Cycle of Market Emotions influences our financial decisions, why we shouldn’t always trust our knee jerk reactions, and holding space for big feelings
  • 34:09 Navigating the stress of talking about money with your romantic partner, how fear sabotages our efforts, and why financial conversations require courage
  • 39:02 Why fear is so pervasive, how our brain’s protective mechanisms keep us safe–and small–and how we can rewire those patterns to step into our power

Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

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