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Aug 2024
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87. Not for Living in Fear + How to Have...

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Anyone else feeling wormy? Jess and Caroline are, but that doesn’t stop them from going hard off the bat on a WHATADO about a listener’s boyfriend and best friend hanging out way too much. They discuss what setting boundaries really means, embracing anger, and knowing there will be discomfort when you say what you need.

After a brief intermission where a F/M/K situation is parsed out, Jess talks about an impending hard conversation, and Caroline gives her best advice about facing fear, taking notes, and naming the hard part up front. What’s NFE without a little giggle at the end? Enjoy a time Caroline put her foot in her mouth…and the role play for how she’ll fix it. Xoxo fellow worms!

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