logo
episode-header-image
Aug 2024
1h 27m

Transvestigating (with Contrapoints)

Matt Bernstein
About this episode

Your gender is not determined by your anatomy, your chromosomes, your hormones, or even your internal sense of self. It is determined by J.K. Rowling. Today, Natalie Wynn (aka Contrapoints) and I unpack the harassment campaign against Algerian boxer Imane Khelif and what it reveals about people who can “always tell.”

Support me + listen to bonus episodes on Patreon!

Get an exclusive discount on NordVPN (that I wish I had when I first signed up for it, but hey): https://NordVPN.com/fruity.

Huge thanks to Blueland for sponsoring today’s show! Get 15% off a cuter, more sustainable way to clean at www.blueland.com/fruity.

Me on Instagram.

A Bit Fruity on Instagram.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Up next
Aug 23
Sydney Sweeney and the Outrage Machine
Sydney Sweeney is Hollywood’s most-discussed starlet, often for confusing reasons. Her existence as a visible woman with a human body made her the target of widespread male adoration, ridicule, and political projection. How she navigates being the new Miss American Dream is yield ... Show More
1h 10m
Aug 6
The Trans Teen Imprisoned for Refusing to Join the IDF
Yona Roseman is 19. In two weeks, the Israeli government is imprisoning her for refusing to join Israel's military, for which service is required by all Israeli Jewish teenagers. Because she is transgender, Yona anticipates she’ll be kept in solitary confinement for 22 hours per ... Show More
56m 2s
Jul 25
Jojo Siwa: The Internet’s Court Jester
Jojo Siwa has been a lot of things: an eleven-year-old abused on television for public entertainment, a tween merchandising mogul with a billion dollar brand, Nickelodeon’s first out gay child star, and most recently, a dollar store trad wife. Behind the facade of endlessly shape ... Show More
1h 32m
Recommended Episodes
Mar 2025
Why Trans Activists Are Attacking This Gym Owner | Episode 14
Brett breaks down the growing trend of trans activists relentlessly attacking women that have created female-only spaces. The Brett Cooper Show on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bbrettcooper By joining Cooper Confidential you are directly supporting me and my team. You’ll get ... Show More
26m 17s
Dec 2024
What Happens When You Swear Off Men feat. Ashli Pollard
If you’ve thought about quitting dating, swearing off men altogether, or joining the 4B movement (don’t worry, we define it if you’re not familiar), this episode is for you. We are joined by entrepreneur/marketing expert and recent viral sensation for the no-men movement, Ashli P ... Show More
1h 27m
Mar 2025
I Give Women Herpes On Purpose
This episode is sponsored by https://BetterHelp.com Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/opl and get on your way to being your best self. Shop SKIMS Mens at https://SKIMS.com and select podcast and Other People’s Lives in the survey after you place your order. Visit https: ... Show More
44m 36s
Jul 2024
Elif Shafak - ‘There’s only one thing that scares me - and that’s indifference’
I could listen to Elif Shafak speak for HOURS. The eloquence of this woman! She speaks like most of us would aspire to write. I cannot get over it. Shafak, the Turkish-British author, combines ferocious intelligence with a captivating turn of phrase so it’s little wonder she’s ga ... Show More
46m 7s
May 20
Embracing Your Masculinity with Brittani Nichols
Producer, Writer and Comedian Brittani Nichols (currently EP on Abbot Elementary!) sits down with Mal to discuss gender expression and the need for better LGBTQ representation in the industry. She reflects on her upbringing in Chicago, the complexities of her identity, and the in ... Show More
55m 46s
Jul 2024
Neuroendocrinology (SEX & GENDER) Mega Encore with Daniel Pfau
It’s an updated mega-encore of one of my favorite episodes — with 2024 research — to learn: How many genders are there? How do you know if you’re queer? Is sexual orientation biological, and if so, how? The amazing neuroscientist and endocrinology researcher Dr. Daniel Pfau joins ... Show More
2h 2m
Nov 2024
Why Men Love B*tches, Black Cat Energy & Responding To Plastic Surgery Backlash
What's up Kavari Krew!! Welcome to What My Sis Said Podcast hosted by sister's Nazanin and Yasmin Kavari ♡ Use code WHATMYSISSAID10 for 10% off your SeatGeek order! https://seatgeek.onelink.me/RrnK/WHATMYSISSAID10 $25 max discount In this video we talk about Why Men Love B*tches ... Show More
1h 17m
Jul 2024
Nepo Babies, Drunchies + Summer of Alisha
On this episode of Pretty Basic, we are back and plotting the ultimate reality TV crossover— trying to get Alisha on Love Island. Meanwhile, Remi recounts her hilarious and somewhat TMI adventures in looking after Alisha’s lady bits. Ever wonder what the price of internet fame is ... Show More
1h 14m
Nov 2023
48. Not for Mama's Boys + Hot Take on Kim K's Nipple Bra
This week, Caroline and Jess contemplate a few listener-submitted thoughts: parents kissing their children on the mouths, a haiku review that unlocks teenage memories, and finally (!) what Caroline means by “mall Santa sex fantasies.” Plus, a silly show and a scary movie that rev ... Show More
1h 9m
Jul 14
3 Steps to More Confidence
You don’t have to fully love yourself to be in a relationship—but if you don’t value yourself at all, it will show up in how you love and who you choose. In this episode, Jillian explores how self-worth shapes our romantic lives, why shame keeps us stuck, and what it actually tak ... Show More
38m 32s