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Aug 2024
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Dr. Ramani: Narcissism 101 - How to Iden...

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How can you spot a narcissist? 

It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.

Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 

I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 00:47 What is a narcissist?
  • 02:43 The continuum of narcissism
  • 07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism
  • 08:00 Definition of empathy
  • 14:50 How to identify a narcissist
  • 17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?
  • 22:45 Healing a narcissist
  • 26:21 Narcissist living in the society
  • 28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality
  • 30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship
  • 33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?
  • 36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship
  • 38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?
  • 38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner
  • 44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents
  • 46:57 Practicing self regulation
  • 57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership
  • 1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations
  • 1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace
  • 1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood

 

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