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Jul 2024
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#78 - Sleep & Relationships with Dr. Wen...

DR. MATT WALKER
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The Science of Shared Sleep: Dr. Wendy Troxel on Bedtime and Relationships

This week, Matt is joined by Dr. Wendy Troxel the celebrated sleep and behavioral scientist whose book, Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep, highlights the significant impact of sleep on relationships. Revealing that 61% of adults sleep with a partner, Dr. Troxel emphasizes the often-overlooked social aspect of sleep and its implications for couple dynamics. As she notes, sleep arrangements have historically varied widely, from communal sleeping in the Middle Ages to separate beds in the Victorian era for hygiene and status reasons. These changing practices reflect evolving societal norms and beliefs about intimacy and health.

Troxel also explores how modern sleep disruptions, such as snoring, differing sleep preferences, and work schedules, can affect relationships. She stresses the importance of open communication and mutual understanding of chronotypes—whether one is a morning lark or a night owl—in managing sleep compatibility. Recognizing and addressing these issues can lead to better sleep quality and, consequently, a healthier relationship. As you will hear, Dr. Troxel's research underscores that there's no one-size-fits-all solution, and advocates for personalized strategies to improve both sleep and relationship health.

Please note that Matt is not a medical doctor, and none of the content in this podcast should be considered medical advice in any way, shape, or form, nor prescriptive in any way.

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Dr. Troxel’s Website (including social media, Sharing the Covers, TED and TEDx Talks): https://www.wendytroxel.com/

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