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Jul 2024
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326. Emotional Support Vacuum

Feelings & Co
About this episode

What is the object that still reminds you of your dead loved one? For Nora, it’s her dead husband’s vacuum. 


This is an excerpt from an episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking Premium called A Collection of Dead People’s Things. You can become a member of TTFA Premium on Patreon or Apple Premium.  


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If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be! But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.

Created and hosted by Nora McInerny.

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“It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that connects people and technology for better employee benefits.  Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits

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Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing a note or voice memo to IGTBO@feelingsand.co. Start your message with “I’m (name) and it’s going to be okay.” 

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The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Grace Barry.

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The transcript for this episode can be found here.

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