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Jul 2024
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172. Weaponized Incompetence and the Hid...

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About this episode

“They're showing you the version of themselves that they want you to idealize and emulate, but it's not actually real.”

In this episode of Financial Feminist, Tori sits down with Paige Connell — a working mom of four who uses her platforms to raise awareness about the mental load of motherhood and advocate for equitable, supportive relationships. Together, they dive headfirst into the messy, real world of woman and motherhood. 

Tune in for a candid conversation that highlights the stark realities behind the glamorized "trad wife" movement on social media, the high costs of childcare, and maintaining financial security and independence within relationships. Whether you're a wife, a parent, or interested in family dynamics, this episode offers meaningful insight and heartfelt discussion on how to make family life more manageable for all.

Check out Eve Rodsky's episode on Fair Play: https://link.chtbl.com/equitable-home-relationships

Learn more about Paige at www.sheisapaigeturner.com

Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at:

https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/172-how-lack-of-parental-support-is-spurring-the-dangerous-tradwife-movement-with-paige-connell/

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